“Blondes have more fun?” Or do they? What is the attraction we have to one another and how does that compare to real love – unconditional love? TV commercials and ads in newspapers and magazines, not to mention ads on billboards and busses, all appeal to physical senses to get us to buy something. It suggests if it doesn’t look good, smell good or sound good it has very little value. That’s not to say that beauty isn’t pleasurable. It is and is intended to be but you don’t stop there. With our relationships, we need to go deeper. Physical attraction has its place but it will never take root unless it grows and that growth takes place in the heart and spirit. With all the conditioning everywhere, how do we detect true love, aside from our physical senses, and love from the heart?

When you love someone unconditionally, you love them from spirit to spirit passing through physical appearances. It’s the deepest kind of love. Having a dear friend or loved one and never considering their height, skin color or beauty is loving them from the heart. I have relationships that go deeper than physical appearances and I’m sure you do as well. As the years go by, these relationships only grow stronger while we change and learn from each other.

From a page that I stumbled on in StumbleUpon, written by IcyCucky at Quazen, is a story showing us an example of extraordinary love. This brief story talks about a relationship between Jeremy and Christianne and demonstrates the power of unconditional love when there’s imperfection and challenges. Both teenagers fell in love and Christianne found herself pregnant at the age of 19. That wasn’t the only challenge; Christianne is a dwarf and can’t walk very far and Jeremy suffers from attention deficit hyperactive disorder (ADHD). They could have made different choices – go their different ways or not have the baby – but they didn’t. I like the observation of the writer in this piece when she says:

“I have heard the expression “love is blind”, but I think love is just beautiful What can be more incredible when two humans just love each other for who they are, the way they are, and do not see limitations in other’s as handicap?”

Maybe you don’t agree with their choices and your reasons may or may not be valid but putting aside opinions, beliefs, physical appearances and senses, the beauty is their discovery of unconditional love at such a young age. Can we support them in this? I believe we should. As the years go by and they grow weary at times, will their young unconditional love continue to grow stronger? I believe it can. I hope in the midst of their challenges, there will be people around them to be a voice for them with love and encouragement. We can learn from their example how to give to each other – yin and yang. Where there’s weakness the other brings strength; when there are doubts and fears, the other embraces with emotional courage.

Love is not blind when it’s unconditional. It will pass the test of time. Only when we get a glimpse of the only true way to love will we have a chance to know. Love comes in so many ways and as Jeremy and Christianne show us, it’s the beauty beyond our physical senses.

From the ol’ kitchen table – Pat