No….but having said that, “I’m happy”. I just haven’t totally arrived yet.
As I look back through my life, I can honestly say I’ve come a long way.
There are places I could have been stuck, places where I wish I never ventured and places I wish I’d had the courage to go.
This life truly is a journey and right now I’m on the path of writing. But, as I write this, I feel dried up inside with not much to write about. The words have deserted me only coming 3 or 4 at a time, as I work at this. But that’s the point, isn’t it ― according to Winston Churchill? To continue!
Maybe some of you will know the frustration I’m feeling in wanting to put something out there but the flow, the energy, is hard to find. I’ve worked on being the type of person that looks for a silver lining in circumstances and situations. I’ve had to learn that early on and it has served me well. (Oh good that was a whole sentence ― the writing is improving.)
But, as I write this, I have to chuckle at a conversation I had with my daughter last week in talking about such things. She said, “Mom, you don’t always have to put icing on poop.” Meaning I don’t always have to put a positive spin on a negative story or negative incident. Then she went on to say, “You just need to let it be what it is ― “poop” ― and sit with it.” I might also add, “Let it go”.
I know it takes work and determination, which is back to where I’m at writing a few words at a time. So, as I sit with this and continue to draw out the words, I hope it’s not “poop” and you can at least get a laugh from it, as you listen to my little rant.
I’ll get where I want to be ― it’s not that far. Yet, probably when I reach it there will be more adventures on the horizon to explore. Forgive me for continuing to add a little icing with a chuckle.
Pat from the ol’ kitchen table
This was a great post. I can see your daughter’s point but for me if I don’t put a little icing on the poop and laugh through the situation I can get bogged down in the negative aspects of the situation.
Thank you Lois – glad you liked it and hope you got a chuckle out of it. That was part of my adding the icing. I’m like you if I focus too much on the negative it will surely drag me down. I have to find a way to change the view and smell (if you get my drift hehehehe).
Hope you stop back again for another visit. I love how you adapted your life so easily especially how you downsized to 300 sq ft living quarters and you do it so well! 🙂
Wise girl your daughter………….now I am not one to sit with poop because it often stinks and I can’t stand the smell………..lol but I do get her point………..
Yes Joanne she is quite a wise woman and knows how not to take herself too seriously. Makes me think alot. I agree with you — don’t want to sit with it too long. It could get old real fast! 🙂
We’ve all been there, Pat. I was for a long time, especially with my blog. I’m pushing myself to get back to reading. That’s what really drives me.
I love your daughter’s comment to just leave, it’s poop. It’s wonderful that you put a positive spin on everything, but sometimes we need to sit in our poop before we can clean it up. *sprinkling writing dust here*
You’re right Denise that we’ve all been there. It’s good that we find ways to move through it and not stay in it. It was particularly poignant to me in what my daughter said. It struck a chord I had never realized before. That is to truly examine how and why we put positive spins on things. If it’s to deny or not deal with situations then we’re only surpressing the issues and not releasing them. Just love her and what an image she gave me ~~ just makes me laugh.
Thank you for stopping by — it’s always so good to hear your thoughts and feedback. 🙂
Words of wisdom from your daughter. Nothing in life is carved in stone. Yes, we need to re frame negative experiences to positive, but that’s to help us move on, heal and let go of the toxicity of that situation. If you can go through a negative experience and move on from it without sugar coating it, then, that should be OK too. Not too many people have that ability but these people exist. Occasionally, I’m able to do this but most of the time it’s the re framing that helps me to move on.
Adalia – thank you for stopping by. I like how you put it — “reframe”. I’m like you, in that I’ve done that most of my life: reframe situations to move forward positively. I think we move back and forth in how we work through issues. There are times when we reframe and move on and other times when we have to sit with it in order to really release it.
I appreciate your feedback and hope you come back soon with more reflections. Want to apologize for any misunderstanding for the contest reference in sharing your site. I’m happy to do what I can to pass along the love. 🙂
Hi Pat, just dropped by to return the favor. I like your style of writing and it did make me smile. You are very good storyteller. I will visit often. Deb Smart
Hi Deb – thank you for visiting. I’m glad you like the reads and hope you will come back and share a tale or two of your own. 🙂